What fills you up? What nourishes you? What gets your blood going? What’s the fizz in your ginger ale? When you are most alive, who are you? What is happening inside you? What are you doing? Who are you with? What’s happening around you at that moment?
Most of us are never asked questions like that. We are too busy trying to untie the twisted knots of our lives to get at what we hope will be the magic treasure inside. The vast majority of us have plans and goals for escaping the prison we’ve found ourselves in. We’ve been digging tunnels looking for a way out. Many of us are short of breath from running after our lives, trying to catch up or get ahead so that someday we can have the life we really want. It’s the life we are planning to have… as soon as __(fill in the blank)__… the house is paid for, the kids are in college, I find the career (or partner) I love, this current misery ends, I find out what I want, my organization becomes enlightened, a new president is elected, etc.
We are living our lives while holding our breath. Even with good intentions and a goal, we often have great difficulty making things happen. That’s partly because we’ve focused on the goal as the means of fulfillment: the thing, the answer, the solution, is invested with the power to grant fulfillment or happiness. Actually, this puts the emphasis in the wrong place; fulfillment is not something you can get or own. It is something you must live. It is something you must embrace about who you are, exactly the way you are, where you are now. It’s something you feel in the core of your being no matter what circumstances are going on around you.
Another challenge to finding individual fulfillment is the demanding world that surrounds us. We are all pulled in 40 directions at once by expectations of others and current responsibilities. To make it even tougher, we are sometimes dragged down by voices in the dark saying things like, “You don’t deserve it. Why try? You’ll just mess it up anyway. It’s too risky. Who do you think you are?”
We believe it is possible for people to have fulfilling lives today, right where they are, even as they make plans and take steps to transform and evolve. It starts with answers to questions like those at the top of this page — it starts with knowing what you want out of life. That’s a big step for lots of us. Many of us have never really asked ourselves that question, not at the deepest level. “No, really. What do you really want in your very own life? You get to make it up from a blank page.” To actually claim that life means breaking free of boxes that may have become quite familiar and neatly decorated, lined with the soft illusion of safety. These boxes may look comfortable, but it’s what lies beyond our comfort zones that reveals who we truly are. As Neale Donald Walsch once said, “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”
Living a fulfilling life is a radical act. We all live in a world that favors, supports and provides incentives for going along to get along. Honoring who we really are can mean making difficult choices. In the end, however, we believe that Fulfillment is worth the challenge. At the end of the day, we believe people want to say they went after their dreams, they sought out and nourished robust, life-giving relationships and they fulfilled their purpose in their own unique way. Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes once said, “Too many people die with their music still in them.” Fulfillment is all about singing your own special song and dancing your own special dance.
It’s no surprise that Fulfillment is one of the Pillars of Health & Well-Being. The first step in any growth endeavor starts here. Now is the time to take a stand for your fulfilling life. Here we will give you tools for getting clear about what that would be at the most fundamental level, and tools for staying on course when the tides and currents of your life tend to pull you off course. If there were just one or two fundamental questions that capture the search for Fulfillment, they would be: “Who are you?” and “What reality do you want to create?”